Gay, married or leaving on Tuesday.

Gay, married or leaving on Tuesday.The single women in San Miguel have had a saying for over 15 years: The men are either gay, married or leaving on Tuesday. San Miguel has more single women than single men. I’ve heard ratios as high as 4 to 1. This may be true in raw numbers but women say that with other factors thrown in, the ratio of relationship worthy men drops dramatically.

For such a small, Mexican town, gay men are abundant in San Miguel. We live in a beautiful, creatively artistic community. It seems that many gay men tend to be more creative than straight men and gravitate to this city. It’s said that San Miguel has a female energy. If that’s true and all these single women were drawn here for it, then in theory it could be true that men who have some female energy are also drawn here for the same reasons.

The “solteros casados” or married men and married women float around looking very single. There are many separated couples or couples in the process of a divorce. It's been said that people come to San Miguel to break up. I doubt that's true. People are breaking up everywhere, all the time and San Miguel isn't unique in that aspect, it's it may be that it’s just easier to stay married than to deal with getting a divorce in Mexico. It’s a well-known fact that many of the “singles” in town are married and that people who are truly single are dating people in San Miguel who are married. The really interesting combo is 2 married singles dating. As the joke goes, it’s okay they’re married....just not to each other. Then there’s the whole open relationship thing. These people are married but have an understanding with their spouses that they can date or ¨play¨ with others.














The “Leaving on Tuesday” group—otherwise known as the turistas—is a popular place for singles to go for some uncomplicated fun. San Miguel gets it share of tourists who are only here for a short while and, because it’s cheaper, usually fly out on a Tuesday. They come down to San Miguel and want to have some fun with the locals. Many are single women who are looking for a tour guide with benefits. This is okay but the problem is you can’t build a relationship with Leaving on Tuesdays.

In San Miguel, it’s even possible to find a single person who is a married gay man and is leaving on Tuesday. All three wrapped up in one.

I think the trick is to maneuver through all of these. If you’re a single man or women and have lived here for a while, chances are you have experienced ALL San Miguel has to offer: Gay, Married and Leaving on Tuesday.